Anxiety manifests itself through psychological and physiological symptoms such as consistent worry or rumination, feelings of restlessness or irritability, difficulty concentrating, muscle tension or trembling, rapid heartbeat or palpitations, shortness of breath or hyperventilation, sweating, nausea, or gastrointestinal distress, sleep disturbances, such as insomnia or nightmares and avoidance of anxiety-provoking situations.
In addition, many anxious people judge themselves a) because they are anxious and b) because they don’t know how to cope with anxiety, leading some people to let anxiety define their character (i.e. their self-esteem). So, not only are they anxious, but they also suffer from low self-esteem, which feeds and sustains anxiety. That’s why it’s essential to understand the role of self-compassion in the process of fighting anxiety.
Here are some of the most important points about the importance of self-compassion:
Reduces Self-Criticism: Anxiety is frequently compounded by self-critical thoughts and self-judgment. Self-compassion helps to counteract this phenomenon by prompting us to treat ourselves with kindness and understanding, rather than harsh criticism. This shift in mindset can lighten some of the emotional weight linked to anxiety.
Limiting self-criticism: When anxious feelings arise, self-compassion offers the support and reassurance we need to overcome difficult emotions. By acknowledging our difficulties with gentleness and acceptance, we can create a secure sense of belonging within ourselves. Self-criticism adds a layer of stress to anxiety. By stopping self-criticism, we have more mental space and energy to manage anxiety in the face of anxiety-related stimuli, rather than being distracted by our own self-criticism.
Fosters emotional resilience: Self-compassion fosters emotional resilience by helping us cope more effectively with anxiety’s peaks. Instead of being overwhelmed by thoughts and feelings, we can address them with a sense of empowerment and self-care. We feel less vulnerable in the face of our anxiety because we’re more confident in our ability to adapt and rise to the challenges we face. Anxiety is no longer the great monster that takes control of life and leaves us powerless.
Promotes awareness : Self-compassion helps nourish the capacity for mindfulness – the skill of observing thoughts and feelings without becoming entangled in them. Being mindful enables us to acknowledge our anxiety without letting it overwhelm us, fostering a sense of composure and clarity amidst anxious thoughts. You are not your feelings. Acquiring this skill can significantly reduce the intensity of your anxiety and make you feel more in control.
Strengthens Self-Worth: Anxiety is a frequent factor affecting our self-esteem, which can lead us to doubt our own abilities and self-worth. Self-compassion strengthens the sense of our own self-worth by recognizing that we are worthy of kindness and attention, regardless of what we struggle with or our flaws. This strengthened self-esteem acts as a protective barrier against anxiety.
Fosters Relationships: By showing compassion for ourselves, we are now better equipped to connect with others who may be experiencing their own difficulties, and can influence help-seeking behaviours positively, which in turn can foster healthier, deeper relationships.
Self-compassion is a skill that can be taught, and self-esteem isn’t something you’re born with either, it’s something you have to nurture throughout your life.
If you’re struggling with anxiety and self-esteem and would like therapy, please feel free to contact me by e-mail at [email protected] to book your first session. I have expertise in these issues.